January 15, 2014
I recently saw something on Facebook that very much reflects something that I’ve been experiencing since my family first moved away from my home as a young woman. It went something like: Everlasting friends can go long periods of time without speaking and never question their friendship; they pick up phones and talk as if they had just spoken yesterday regardless, of how long it has been or how far away they live.
I have a friend with whom I have been friends since we started kindergarten at the age of 5. We’ve gone years between seeing each other or talking with each other but the second we hear each other’s voice it’s as if time has stood still. We giggle like we were still kids; we catch up on our lives and now the lives of our children and grandchildren. We are connected in a way that is unexplainable. We laugh about our teen years and our now years. We’ve even has the good fortune to celebrate mile stones together since my move back to Indiana.
I have a close friend that until two summers ago I had not seen in about 30 years when met at her sister’s home two summers ago. The second we laid eyes on each other, the years fell away. We hugged and we laughed. My daughter joined us on a walk and my friend and I took turns carrying my grandson along the walk we had taken in our teens when I stayed over at her home. I have to admit the walk seemed so much shorter back then! My daughter told me that she felt like we were visiting family and she built a quick bond with one of the sister’s.
I have friends in Pennsylvania that I vacation with, chat with on Facebook and talk with on the phone. We are very different and yet very much the same. We have danced, cooked, shopped and walked on the beach! The main thing is we are there for each other and truly care for each other. We make each other laugh!
I have a friend that I met and thought that I had nothing in common with, but discovered quickly that we were put in each other’s lives by someone much more knowing than us. We have laughed and continue to laugh together. Our children developed lasting friendships with each other as well.
One friend, was my and is my mentor, and taught me so much in the business world. I remember her daily. We have laughed hard together!
I have a dear friend who was there with me the entire day of my daughter’s wedding helping me with everything she could. The support she gave me that day and the support that she shows me every day is amazing! We enjoy music, dancing, our daughters, grandchildren and laughing together.
There are special friends from Second National Bank who are dear to my heart and who I laugh with endlessly. I know our friendships will continue and I am grateful.
There are friends that have left us and whom have left an empty spot in my heart but I know they are still guiding us and watching over us. I am so blessed to have had them in my life. And I remember the times we laughed.
It’s important to be the kind of friend to your friends that you want them to be to you. Be there when they need you. Listen when they need to talk, or to vent. Hug them when they cry, laugh together. Support their decisions. Don’t be a judge, that’s not your place. Keep your private conversations private. Be there when they need you, and they will be there when you need them.
One key phase that I discovered when rereading this writing, is Laughter. Laughter and laughing together is the key to friendship, love and is a wonderful stress release.
To my friends, I wish you much love and much laughter! Thank you for your never ending friendship.
Love, and Laugh often and Laugh until it hurts!
“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” ― Elbert Hubbard
“We’ll be Friends Forever, won’t we, Pooh?’ asked Piglet. Even longer,’ Pooh answered.” ― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
“Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.” - Muhammad Ali
Victoria Horsley is a volunteer citizen columnist who serves Daily Advocate readers weekly with her community column Union City News Reel. She can be contacted with local events, news, birthdays or anniversaries at firstname.lastname@example.org or by calling 937-467-3945. Viewpoints expressed in these opinion pieces are the work of the author. The Daily Advocate does not endorse these viewpoints or the independent activities of the author.