By Victoria Horsley
August 20, 2014
There are several types of loss. The loss can be death, divorce , or a the loss of yourself due to emotional or mental abuse. The loss can be the loss of a loved one, a pet, a relationship or a job.
The pain of loss is a pain that can not be explained. You only understand that type of pain if you have experienced it. There is a loneliness, emptiness, and hopelessness that controls our waking and sleeping hours. Time will lessen the sadness but it will never go away completely.
To emotionally recuperate from a great loss, you must go through a grieving period, work through your loss and let it go. If you don’t allow this grieving period, you are most likely in denial. No matter how you try to run from it, you won’t be able to get away. It is always there. The pain will live inside you and grow, eventually controlling your life and your life decisions. It will control the success you will have in your career, and in other relationships. It will dictate how you connect or don’t connect with your children and other family members or friends. Eventually, it will effect your children and who they are and can filter down through future generations.
I attended a Memorial service today for the loss of a friends husband. It was heartbreaking to see and feel the pain that my friend and her family were experiencing with the loss of their loved one. He was still young, hadn’t had the chance to enjoy grandchildren. Although he did have the blessing of raising two children, it seems as if his life has been too short, that he was taken away too soon.
Grief and depression walk hand in hand. It’s hard to pull through most loss. Emotional or physical abuse is often the hardest because it is so unnecessary. If this is the case, it is important to seek help from a close, reliable friend, a pastor or a professional who deals with loss. Therapy can be useful in any loss situation.
“Grief is in two parts. The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life.” - Anne Roiphe
“The loss of a friend is like that of a limb; time may heal the anguish of the wound, but the loss cannot be repaired.” - Robert Southey
“I think loss of loved ones is the hardest blow in life.” - Marlo Thomas
“If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.” - Daniel Goleman
Mark your Calendars:
Great Darke County Fair: August 15-23 - 1-800-736-3671 darkecountyfair.com
Class Reunion: The Class of 1984 is celebrating their reunion Sat., Sept. 13 at the Turtle Creek Golf Course, Thirsty Turtle Lounge. Dinner will be $20 person which needs to be prepaid. Dinner will be served at 5 p.m. A live band is playing at 7 p.m. All reservations should be mailed to Tracey (Meinerding) Drew, 800 Wasson Road, Union City, Ohio 45390. Come and enjoy a great time reuniting with your classmates!
October 10-12 Artisan Crossing Union City Arts Festival. Unioncityartsfestival.org for more information.
Victoria Horsley is a volunteer citizen columnist who serves Daily Advocate readers weekly with her community column Union City News Reel. She can be contacted with local events, news, birthdays or anniversaries at firstname.lastname@example.org or by calling 937-467-3945. Viewpoints expressed in these opinion pieces are the work of the author. The Daily Advocate does not endorse these viewpoints or the independent activities of the author.